Parenting Support

Connect with your gifted, intense, wondrous child

As a parent, your emotional capacity is stretched to the extreme, especially parents with intense kids.

You may simultaneously:

Love your kids intensely… and really dislike their behavior.

Be trying SO hard as a parent… and feel like it’s never enough.

Be amazed at your kids’ capabilities… and baffled at their struggles.

Be tuned in to your kids more than anyone else in the world is… and still feel like you don’t understand them at all.

If you feel overwhelmed by your child’s emotions, get thrown off your axis when your buttons are pushed, or struggle to feel confident as a parent, these are good indications that you’re out of sync - with your child and yourself.

Now parent guilt is intense enough as it is, so let me reassure you that YOU are the best parent for your child, and you’re doing a damn good job at it. But being an out of sync parent means you’re working crazy hard to just survive, and that’s hard on both parents and children.

Instead, let’s help you direct energy to the right
things so you can:

  • Parent more effectively, connect with your child, and enjoy time with them again.

  • Feel confident that your parenting responses are nurturing your child instead of doing damage.

  • Understand your child's needs, advocate for them, and help them grow.

“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”

-- Theodore Roosevelt

The heart of my parenting philosophy…

…is prioritizing a healthy, secure relationship between parents and children. Parenting without connection is ineffective - children feel overlooked and parents end up exhausted and discouraged. It’s like revving your engine when your car’s still in neutral.

Once connection is prioritized, parents can shift to working with their kids instead of working against them. It becomes possible for parents to use appropriate tools, and for children to learn from them.

I help parents learn about what damages or prevents that connection, and practice what builds it instead. This may require a lot of individual parent growth and healing, because in the end, you can only guide your children as far as you yourself have grown.

How do we do that?

Parenting work requires understanding yourself as much as it requires understanding your kids.

Growth isn’t linear, but we move between these main pieces:

1. Learn about your sore spots and your child’s needs.

2. Process what’s throwing you off or getting in your way.

3. Accept without judgment who you are and who your child is.

4. Connect with your child so they feel safe and can learn from you. Connect with yourself so you don’t get lost.

5. Support yourself and your child with tools and responses that are aligned with everyone’s needs.

We take an honest look at where you’re at, where your child is at, and where you’re inadvertently getting in your own way and why. We explore what unique challenges and needs both you and your child have, so you can fill your own bucket and learn how to fill theirs. We practice tools that simultaneously increase your confidence and give your child a safe platform to launch from.